发信人: starstruck (Dreaming Stars.), 信区: Heart
标 题: 10 Ways To Get Over A Break Up
发信站: The unknown SPACE (Wed Jul 21 15:19:39 1999) WWW-POST
Even if you don't retain any type of relationship with your
ex-partner, it's important for your emotional well-being and
your future relationships for you to get beyond the break up
well as possible. Here are some suggestions in case you are
too close to the forest to see the trees.
1.Don't try to "get even." Even if your partner cheated
on you, spending time trying to get revenge just zaps
your personal energy.
2.Don't keep tabs. This includes online. For example,
take your partner off your AOL's buddy list; don't talk
friends to keep tabs on their activities; and don't drive
by their house.
3.Don't use excuses to see or contact your
ex-partner. This includes not leaving personal items so
you can make excuses to keep seeing your ex-partner.
4.Don't be afraid to be alone. Take this time to
understand what happened, and use this time to
strengthen and grow emotionally.
5.Don't live in the past. Taking the time to understand
what happened is different from obsessing and
dwelling on the past.
6.Don't try to get involved with someone else on the
rebound. If you try to get involved with someone new
too soon after a break up, then you will bring a lot of
emotional baggage to this new relationship.
7.Pack away, don't toss. Pack away the momentos,
pictures, and souvenirs from your time together. Don't
toss right away unless it was a really bad break up.
Later you might want to keep some items.
8.Recognize your dating pattern. Are you continually
dating someone who isn't compatible with you, your
interests, and your lifestyle? Dating Patterns Analyzer
evaluates your relationship and tells you what really
makes you happy.
9.Forgive yourself. Did you do or say things that you
regretted later? It's too easy to just blame yourself.
can't go back and change the past, but you can learn
from your mistakes and forgive yourself.
10.Forgive your partner. Forgiveness is a choice, not an
emotion. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to
forget or stay with your partner. Sometimes forgiving is
making the decision to cut your losses and walk away.
No one is given the power to dream without given the power to
make it come true. :-)
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